05 May 2010

Writer's Workshop - Letter To A New Mom

It's time for Mama Kat's Writer's Workshop again. This week's prompt No. 1 suits me quite perfect as I planned a kind of that topic to post.
The prompt is: Open letter to new moms...

Let's go!

>> Dear new mom or mommy-to-be,

there are sooooo many things we don't think about or expect to happen when we are planning to get pregnant. Pregnancy itself is a cake walk compared to birth and having a fresh baby at home. Believe me - it hit me quite hard coz this is something moms NEVER tell you about.

They tell you that giving birth is the most emotional and wonderful thing on earth. It is not! Really not! Giving birth is emotional but not in a good way. And it will be the most horrible and painful experience you can imagine. But you can never imagine the labor pain nor the pain after giving birth (e.g. episiotomy).
But yes, you feel like in heaven when you're holding your little tiny baby in your arms, searching for your breast and nearly unable to open the eyes. That's the most wonderful moment when giving birth...

They never tell you about the first few weeks after birth. You won't get no sleep, no recreation. You are the most stressed, starving and anguished, overstrained person in the world. The baby wants to eat every 2-4 hours, even at night. You are not able to walk much and need to stay at home when having a c-section or a episiotomy, for about 4 weeks. Every situation is new with a new-born, even having a shower or cooking.
But yes, when you are feeding (doesn't matter if you do breastfeeding or bottle-feeding) at 3 o'clock in the morning, in the middle of the night, freezing and then he/she smiles at you and is thankful that you are there - you know it's all worth it...

They never tell you that it will change your complete life. And if they do tell you, you'd never believe. Because you'll get one of those other moms that won't change their life because of that little person. You are sure you get it managed and that you are always being showered and put your face on when leaving the house. You think that you'll get back your old body right away and be cool in every situation. Believe me, you won't. Never. Your life will change and you cannot do anything for stopping that.
But yes, sometimes you get everything in order and even washed your hair when you leave the house (maybe you'll notice that you forget the make-up) but no one every notices coz it doesn't matter as long as your baby is satisfied.

I really don't want to scare you. But this is how I experienced it. And other moms I know felt exactly the same.
Be sure to say NO if you don't want to have any visitors. Say NO if you don't want the other to touch your baby.
And after 8 weeks time, you got used to your baby and everything runs in order again. This is true!

Wishing you all the best!<<


  1. Great post.Nice blog i am proud to be your newest follower

  2. Wow I had a few shivers reading your letter because it's such a beautiful amazing and scary time just after having a baby...I miss those times..

  3. I've been working on a post like this too....but didn't use it for this week's prompt.

    I can't believe no one told me I wouldn't be able to walk. That was the worst.

    Over from Mama Kat's...


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