Never Wanna See You Unhappy

I don't know why but there's trouble in the air. There are some couples just around me who have trouble in their marriage. And this scares me a lot. A lot lot!

One of my friends told me that her husband even sleeps in a seperate bed because he don't want to stay up at night when the kids are crying and he also don't want their kids in the bed. She's quite unhappy and told me it's like a "partnership of convenience". He doesn't help her with the household or the kids. He says, he's working and needs his spare time and don't want to waste it by playing with the kids. So there's no chance to her to go out and relax.
Another one told me that she's going to get divorced soon because she couldn't stand the thought to live with her husband until death do them part. But she just didn't do the step to split up because of their son. So if they won't have a kid she would've been gone already.
Hubby's best friend's wife has trouble with her husband because she thinks he's cheating on her (and there are some reasons that argue against him) and there is so much distrust in their marriage now. They both feel unhappy and uncomfortable with each other and don't kiss or talk anymore.

I could go on and on with that list. And it scares me so much that we'll be the next couple with trouble...
But instead enjoying being happily married and work on this I do ruin it. I don't know why but I try to ruin my marriage before getting in trouble. That's stupid, I know that. I just experienced that yesterday when we had an argument because of a silly thing.
How dumb am I? Ruining a happy marriage because I got scared of others who are in trouble? Damn it!
I really want to safe my marriage, I do love my husband and I want to spent my whole life with him! So as we say "Einsicht ist der erste Schritt zur Besserung!" which says as much as "Knowing your faults is the first step towards improvement!".

I really do hope that the other couples are finding their way back to a happy marriage or find a straight way to split up.

Recap

As I mentioned on Friday, we were invited to a wedding party on Saturday night.
My great cousin and her now husband got married at a wonderful beach on a Thai island in December 2009. And as they wanted to celebrate their marriage with their family and friends nevertheless the planned to have a beach party.
To me (and not only to me) it was a bit weird. They hired an indoor beach hall to celebrate. Outside, there's still snow and it was really cold. But you never wear a sweater at the beach, do you? So I dressed like going to a summer party: a purple summer dress, a bolero and coz of the cold I wore a leggins, too. For the journey to the indoor beach hall I wore my boots and changed to flip flops there.

And damn, we had fun. It was a really great party! Nice music, yummy food (they had a Spanferkel/sucking pig and a chocolate fountain) and we played beach volleyball and danced. We had a great time :-)

The next morning, we met with my great cousin and her husband for breakfast and we could talk unhurriedly. Then we drove back home, picked up D at my in-laws and enjoyed the rest of the sunday.

So, we had a great weekend and enjoyed the time very much. Although I felt that I'm just complete with D and hubby! :-)

Valentine's Extravaganza - 10 Things I Love About Hubby

Happy Valentine's Day out there!

We just came back from our Valentine's dinner which is our Engagement Anniversary as well. We went to an elegant Italian restaurant and had a wonderful time. I did enjoy my really tasty tomato soup, the delicious self-made spaghetti with black truffles and a yummy pana cotta for dessert...



Before I'll go to bed I'm going to join in Mama M.'s last day of Valentine's Extravaganza and telling you ten things I love about my wonderful hubby <3

I love about hubby that
... he's a gentleman and opens doors for me or helps me with my jacket
... he still finds me attractive and sexy after the pregnancy (gaining about 22lbs which I still carry with me)
... he can handle my temper
... he's picking up fresh buns at the bakery on Sunday morning
... he helps me with the household
... he does diaper changing, too
... he's going to work and doing overtime so I can stay at home
... he is able to accept and live with the experiences I'd made in the past
... does quite well with my family
... he loves me for what I am

Enjoy your Valentine's Day like I did and be thankful for the one who loves you unconditionally...

Valentine's Extravaganza - Romantic Screw Up

Mama M. was asking about the most romantic screw up our hubby did for us, as part of her Valentine's Extravaganza.



Well, I gotta be honest, I thought about skipping this thing. But I want to do it completely so I'd join in either. You won't here a good story to envy you. No rose petals on the bed. No candles. No romantic stuff which you can call romantic. I'm sure the most romantic thing he'd ever planned and did was his proposal. Really, I mean it. But that's OK for me. We had some so romantic moments which weren't prepared.
I want to tell you about one thing: his best friend's wife's grand-ma is living in Hungary, near Budapest. They visited her very often and asked if we would like to come with them for some days. Renting a nice car and driving to Budapest, seeing Granny and having a nice time. It was a great idea. So Ghandi (his best friend, not his real name, I call him this coz with his glasses he looks like Ghandi) and his family had one car and hubby and me another. At this time, we were a couple for about 3 months. We stayed at a hotel and Ghandi's family stayed with Granny. One night, we went to Budapest and visited Budapest by night. We got to the Gellért Hill and well, it was just the two of us. It was quiet, not crowded anymore and he embraced me and we stood there - it was really, really romantic (and would have been a nice moment to propose *gg*).
So I think that was one of the most romantic moments we've had so far...

Valentine's Extravaganza - Fav Wedding Memory

This, again, is part of Mama M.'s Valentine's Extravaganza and she wants to know about our favorite wedding memories.



To me, it was the ceremony. Especially, when the pastor married us... It was the most overwhelming moment in my life (except giving birth) and it was like a dream coming true.
The ceremony was a very classic one coz we had a traditional (German) wedding. Our pastor is really cool and he did the service so wonderful, romantic and funny. We had the most wonderful singer around who I knew from my past singing in a choir - I totally adore her voice! After the marriage she performed "Das Beste" for us - this was the moment I started to cry...

I try to translate the refrain of this song for you:
>You're the best thing that ever happened to me
You make me feel so good
When you're around
I forget the rest of the world
You're the best thing that ever happened to me
It feels so good that you love me
I don't tell you frequently enough
Thank you for being there>

The rest of the day was really great, too but this is my favorite memory. As said, it was just overwhelming...

- If you would like to know more about German weddings, let me know and I will do a post about this. -

Have a nice day! :-)

Valentine's Extravaganza - How I Got Engaged

So, I'm sure you remember Mama M.'s Valentine's Extravaganza. It's time for the engagement story :-)



So yesterday I told you about our third date. It was the 14 August 2008 when we got a couple officially. At Christmas the same year, we spoke about getting married for the first time. We knew after a very short time that we are made for each other. And hell, we won't get younger... I was 26 and him 33 so it was time to go the whole hog ;-)
We were flying to Barcelona over New Year's Eve which we spent at the hotel room coz of food poisoning - very romantic though. But well, I think it was like a tryout. So as we were lying in bed, sleeping and puking by turns, we tried to take care as much as possible for each other. And we talked again about getting married if we pass the tryout - which we totally did- and decided to get married.
When we were home then I wasn't that sure anymore if he was really serious. So we talked about it again and he said that he wants to do a real proposal and is already planning it. Gladly, I told him that I would like to get married in summer and that I'd need half a year minimum for planning.
On Valentine's Day in 2008, we were a couple for exact 6 months now, he said he reserved a table in a nice restaurant. He didn't tell me what restaurant, only that I need to dress up solemnly. The restaurant he had chosen was a nice and elegant Italian one, at the foot of the television tower. It was really nice. Again, we were talking about the marriage stuff and I said that I won't start planning the wedding until I got the proposal and he said that he wanted to get married that year and I said I wanted to start planning and blablabla...
So after dinner, he wanted to get up the television tower. It was a veeery cold night and I wasn't prepared for that. But well, he wanted to get up and I said OK. Totally blonde, I didn't get this hint!
There were few couples standing up there and the wind was cold and it was so foggy. It could have been very romantic but the fog ruined it all. So he was embracing me and after a while he said: "Babe, uhm.... can I get a kiss?" So we kissed, still embraced. Then: "Babe, uhm.... would you like to marry me?"
Then everything made sense... I looked in his eyes, he was nearly crying and I didn't expect him to ask me that day. I was crying, too and all I could say is "Yes, I do.". So we kissed and then he broke out the jewel case and presented me the ring. He had this caseket in his trouser's pocket the whole night and I didn't notice it.
The ring was very simple, white gold with just one bling. Wonderful! (In Germany, it isn't usual to get a bling ring like in the USA. Usually it's a simple silver ring which both are choosing so that they both wear an engagement ring...)

So this was how I got engaged and every Valentine's Day we keep the tradition of having dinner in that restaurant and afterwards go up on the television tower :-)

Valentine's Extravaganza - Best Date Ever

Let's get on with our story! Today, I'm going to tell you about my best date ever. It was, of course, with hubby...
As I couldn't choose if Date One or Date Three was the best I'll tell you from both - as short as possible ;-) (Date Two was just a normal date...)

Let's start in chronological order with Date One:
It was a Friday, just a week after we met for the first time in real life. He picked me up, with his black Benz. I was deeply impressed - not because of his nice car - no, I was impressed that he suggested to pick me up. I wasn't used to this. Never ever did a guy pick me up for a date, those losers...
So we went out for dinner at a nice Italian restaurant. Both of us were quite shy and so we started with the usual small talk about job and weather and stuff. That night, the annual city festival was up and so we went for a walk through the crouded fair. And as I didn't want to lose him I took his hand - ha very practical, don't you think? After walking a while hand in hand - so that we won't lose each other *gg* - we decided to get some cocktails at a bar. And well we sat there talking for hours and enjoyed every minute. When walking back to the car he took my hand although there was no croud anymore - and the billions of butterflies got crazy in my stomach....
*sigh* This was soooo wonderful!

Getting on to Date Three:
Again, he picked me up. This time it was a Tuesday, 11 days after our first date. We went to a beer garden for having diner where we met some of his friends. After finishing our diner we went to another crouded city festival, just an other city this time. We had a beer and just walked through the fair. We met some other friends and a girl was just straight and asked him if I was his new girlfriend. He said yes. I was amazed coz we didn't talk about this before, you know, if we are already an official couple or just dating to get to known to each other better.
When we made our way to the car, just the two of us, I asked him: "So, I'm your girlfriend now, am I?" and he smiled his smile at me: "Yes! Uhm... I hope so..." (he hesitated if I'd be with him...) and I smiled at him, saying: "OK! I like it..." This was the moment he layed his arm around my shoulder and we kept on walking arm in arm.... *sigh*

Yes, those are my favorite dates ever! Ah, my butterflies are back :-)

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This is part of Mama M.'s Valentine's Extravaganza! Check it out and join in...

Valentine's Extravaganza - How I Met Hubby

Good morning, world! Hope your weekend was great and you enjoyed the time with your family around. I did, although I'm still having this shitty bronchitis and the coughing is quite nerveracking by now - after a week. And I do have an appointment at the dentist, just checking, but I don't like going to the dentist...

So this week I will post daily! :-) Yes, just because of Mama M.'s fantastic new idea: a week of love stories which she named "Valentine's Extravaganza". You can read all about it here and join in to share your stories, too.



She started yesterday with "How you met the love of your life". As I don't blog on weekends I'll join in this thing now. Stay tuned for the rest of our story :-)

Well, hubby and I met in a bar, the first time in real life, end of July 2007. But it all started some weeks earlier...
His then best friend - let's call her Beastie (not Bestie) - was a friend of mine, too. We met through a mate and Beastie and I got along well. Somewhen, she mentioned her very best friend and that he is quite a handsome and very nice man. From this day on, she talked about him every day! We were members of an internet community and so was he. Beastie and I sent each other some entries to our online guestbook and so he noticed me for the first time.
He was looking at my profile and asked Beastie who I am. Then she told me about this and started to talk about him even more. Hubby and I started to write emails and were chatting whenever both of us were online. We enjoyed it very much and there was a strong connection between us.
Beastie slobbered over him every time I met her. I thought that she's going to pair us off. I didn't mind either coz he really seemed to be nice.
Somewhen, Beastie and I were at the movies and after the movie she had the idea to ask what he's doing. He told her that he's in a bar with some friends. We decided to hop over to get a beer with them. I was kind of nervous but excited to meet him in real life...
When we entered the bar I saw him straight away. The bar was very crouded but he was really handsome. Beastie and him greated each other then it was my turn :-)
OK long story short, this was the first time I met him in real life and the connection in real life was as strong as online. We had quite a good time and so he asked me for a date. I was totally amazed and well, that was the beginning of our story...!

{I've got to say, Beastie isn't part of our life anymore. She wanted to tear us apart although she put us together. After hubby and I dated and it was getting serious she couldn't handle that anymore. It turned out that she was in love with him for the past few years but he turned her down. To him, she was a good friend but nothing more. As she forced him to choose between her and me, he chose me because that isn't what best friends do. Even some months later, she couldn't cope with it and was talking shit about hubby and me - acting like a dumb teenie although being nearly 30... }

It's such a perfect day...

Yesterday, we had an appointment with our hairdresser to be pretty at the holidays. Even D got his hair cut as though I'm scared to do it on my own.

After this thing done we went to our wonderful Christmas market. It's a special one as we do have a Middle Ages Christmas market with people in those old costumes and you can get mead and other specialties from this era. There weren't much visitors so it was great to walk through with the stroller without getting evil eyes. We ate some Bratwurst and trank Glühwein and just enjoyed the time.

Then we met my former nail art artist and she got pregnant 2 months after myself. But she got twins. And if she ever starts talking she won't stop - until you'd be rude and tell her to stop. So she told us about her experiences with the twins, that people always want to see the twins and touch then and so on. Then she told us the stories as one of her boys fell down off the changing table and broke his upper arm at the age of 8 months. And she keeps on telling and telling and telling and telling and telling... D fluttered and started screaming as he wanted to go on, same with us. So yes, I was rude and told her that we still need to do our Christmas shopping but it was nice meeting her. She looked quite disappointed but well went on with her stuff.

We went Christmas shopping for our parents (gift certificates for a brunch at the Best Western Hotel), my hubby's godchild (a game) and her sister (gift certificate for the movies) and for my friend's daughter (a pyjama for her doll). I still do not have a gift for my brother and even don't have a clue. Any ideas for a 25 year old young single man who's always busy?

At home after this long day out in the city (we live in the suburbs) I needed to clean up and so on. My hubby told me he just wants to sleep and went to bed, D was nearly asleep, too so I needed to clean it up all by myself. I asked my hubby to install the "fence" at D's kiddy room door but he doesn't want to. So I did it. I was pissed. And oh we had a hard argument. He was rude and acted like an a**hole, told me some macho-like stuff like "you are the wifey, I go to work". I HATE stuff like that. We are married, a team and we should help each other with everything.
Well, in the end we ended up in different rooms, not talking anymore. D was very confused and screamed.

We talked things out before he left for work. But well, I think we need some time for us, just as a couple...

Have a nice day out there!

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